Who has hurt you the most?

Who has hurt you the most in your life?  Were you ever able to forgive them?  What is your relationship like now with them?

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30 thoughts on “Who has hurt you the most?

  1. Jo Ann

    my father when he left us. i actually did not realize i was hurt by it until recently, when i had a soul-searching. i have not seem him yet and there’s no relationship to describe.

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  2. Willow

    My mother and my husband. They were neither able to love me unconditionally. They are very much alike in that. My mother recently died and I am having to come to terms with that. My husband recently had a 4-5 month emotional affair. He tells me he is deeply remorseful and ashamed but I am beginning to suspect that he’s telling me that just to shut me up about it. I’ve been hoping for a true reconciliation and strengthening of our marriage but today, right at this moment, I have doubts.

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  3. Anonymous

    The only person I have ever felt truly loved by was my husband. I felt adored, cherished- we shared, or at least I thought we did, a deep love and respect for one another. Now I find out that he is a porn addict.

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  4. Anonymous

    my brother shane… I hate to even call him my brother – he’s really my half brother and he’s 8 years older than me. he sexually abused me as a child. I’ve never been able to forgive him. Our relationship now is non-existant. I can’t stand to look at him, I can’t stand to be near him, I can’t stand to hear his voice or even his name… Everything about him just makes me sick…

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  5. Gina

    A few people hurt me emotionally. When I was pregnant, I thought it was supposed to be a happy time. I truly was happy until the former principal of the elementary school I work at made my life a living hell. She constantly stopped me in the hallway for no reason. She kept changing my schedule. She placed me with severely challenged children that would run off or knock you down at any moment’s notice. I love my husband but after I had the baby, he and I were eating. I asked him to hold the baby and he told me to hold her with one arm. That killed me and it still does today. I am so glad that I have God in my life or I would’ve lost it. I went through a lot to have my child so I felt like evil was trying to make me lose my child but God was there. Those that don’t treat people right will see it again.

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  7. Lynn

    A long time friend of 12yrs. She dropped me because I had opinions she felt I forced on her. I might have said how I felt about things but I would have never expected to do them. I only voiced when asked. Even years later when we tried to work things out she blamed me for everything. It still hurts.

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  8. peeking in

    My father, The Snake. When my parents divorced after 28 years together (I was 28) my Mother and I found out that The Snake told a male family friend that during a drinking party all three of them went to their senior year of high school this friend got with my Mother and I was the result. But The Snake was dating her so he stepped up to the plate and married her anyway, knowing I wasn’t his. We heard this from the friends mother, who we are both close to, a few months after the divorce was final. This totally smoked me. Mostly because I look like a female version of my father – slim & dark. Whereas the family friend is blond and very heavy-set. But the part that hurt the most was that The Snake told this lie when I was 2 years old and never set the record straight. So this guy had gone for 26 years thinking that I was his daughter. How does somebody do that to a person? I have since discontinued any and all contact with The Snake. I know I need to forgive him, for myself, but I don’t think I can. I keep coming back to the question of why I wasn’t good enough to be claimed by him as his own fleash and blood, which leads to why would I want to be claimed by a person who would do something like this, which leads to he’s my father, which leads to I need to forgive him, which leads to how do you forgive someone when they don’t think they did anything wrong? So mostly I don’t think about it and when I do I pray for guidence and forgiveness because I still, after 4 years, can’t forgive him.

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  9. Lydia

    My first husband. Even when our 29 yr marriage was failing I thought I could trust him to protect me all the while knowing he was a cheater our whole marriage. However, our last year together he went with my friends and women who were in the same club I belonged to and then some. He no longer tried to hide who he was. Now I don’t hate him but it took a lot of work because I wanted to heal and move on. One day I realized God was doing for me what I could not do for myself because I knew for years I should have left that man but fear kept me in the relation. His behavior made it too hard to stay. I am so happy now with my second husband.

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  10. Sasha

    My exboyfriend, I was with him for many years and loved him unconditionally. Still do for that matter. But he killed a part of me that I may never get back. 5 Years later and I am still trying to find that part of myself.

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  11. anonymous

    I’ve been hurt too many times. Honestly, probably by my mother the most. Though she was there every day, I blame her for abadoning me. She didn’t protect me, didn’t believe me and didn’t stand up for me.

    I came to her and told her I was sexually molested when I ws 8. Her and the guy’s mother (he was 17) told me I was imagining it and that I needed to go on and play. I’m still hurt by the fact my mother didn’t stand up for me and she continues to be friend’s with the guy’s mom, 23 years later.

    I blame her for never being open and honest with me about sex as a teenager, but now as an adult she wants to talk about it all the time, like what goes on behind my bedroom doors. That is none of her business. I know she is a “swinger” and this deeply disturbs me. I don’t feel this is the behavior of someone that is “such a great Christian” that she claims to be.

    I feel like my mother is a fake.

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  12. Anonymous

    My grandmother for refusing to acknowledge the world and live with her rose-colored glasses. She abandoned our entire family to take care of her adult son and his family. The same son who is physically and mentally abusive to her, yet she tells the rest of the family we all “disowned” her. Who took her to the doctor appointments? Who was at her bedside when she was in the hospital? She is months away from death and I don’t care. She deserves it for the countless lives she has ruined.

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  13. Anonymous

    My mother, for putting her married boyfriends before her children. SHe sent me to another state to live with relative so she could have her single life with her married man.

    She is paying for it today. She is 54 years old, paralyzed, and living in a nursing home. She expects me of all people to be there for her. I do at times, but could more often. I am now the “mother” in our relationship and I’m putting her on the back burner just as she did me, 13 years ago.

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  14. Anonymous

    i’ve been hurt by a lot of people all my life, i grew up with this wall of protection by not becoming attached to anyone, but the last person who hurt me was my twin sister, she betrayed our union, she offenden my home and my integrity she finally let her true self come out, she told me how she realy felt by telling me how much she hated me and how much she hoped my life was miserable, but that’s not what caused my pain, the worst was when i realized that while she was punching me and screamin all this to me, my kids were watching, this caused them a lot of harm, we went thru a lot of years of therapy to repair the damage this trauma had caused, to this day i dont understand how can someone u have protected and loved so much do so much harm, to this day i can’t stand to even hear her name.

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  15. Anonymous

    -when i was in 4th grade a fellow classmate and friend started touching me and when we would have sleepovers she would find her dads dirty magazines and she would look up pornography on the internet. it lasted 2 years, i think (i blockout alot of that time in my life) and so in high school when we went to the same school together, i was afraid she would tell people. but she never did.

    -when me and my husband dated, about a month or so after he took my virginity, he called me from 600 miles away and told me he wanted to take a break because he “liked” someone else, who just so happened to be my roommates sister. after she wanted nothing to do with him, we reconciled. i learned that he treated me this way, because he never knew his real dad, and his step dad used to verbally and physically abuse his mother, and him, so he never had a father figure to teach him how to treat wemon. he is a wonderful husband and father today and we are very much happy. however, i will never forget that moment that i became insecure for forever.

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  16. Anonymous

    my mother cut me out of her life and has never met my children because my partner is a woman. and when i read the earnest, anti-gay comments from some of the mothers here, i hope that they never turn their backs on their children should their kids ever come out.

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  17. Anonymous

    my real mother. in short she never wanted me nor loved me. she blamed me for ruining her life. if you only knew how hateful of a person she is and has been in my life, it would make you sick. as for the anonymous on 1/23/09, i am so sorry that there are so many people even in here that are anti-gay. you should be proud of who you are and your accomplishments. and it is your mother’s lost. my oldest daughter is gay. i don’t love her any less because of her choice. i tell her all the time, she is still a beautiful person as she has always been. shame on those who cannot accept the differences of other people.

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  18. mml

    my real mother. in short she never wanted me nor loved me. she blamed me for ruining her life. if you only knew how hateful of a person she is and has been in my life, it would make you sick. as for the anonymous on 1/23/09, i am so sorry that there are so many people even in here that are anti-gay. you should be proud of who you are and your accomplishments. and it is your mother’s lost. my oldest daughter is gay. i don’t love her any less because of her choice. i tell her all the time, she is still a beautiful person as she has always been. shame on those who cannot accept the differences of other people.

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  19. Anonymous

    those that molested me as a child… because the damage that was done has caused so many other issues: PTSD, anorexia, bulimia, difficulty trusting, depression, dissociation. And as far as I’ve come in healing from it, there are always set backs when you least expect it.

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  20. Anonymous

    forgot the second part (I wrote about being molested). As for the forgiving part… I’ve forgiven my cousin, my brother, the babysitter but sometimes I wonder if I truly forgave “the grandfather”. He abused the cousin and brother (among others) so it’s almost like I heaped all the blame on him (if he hadn’t done it to them, maybe they would not have done it to me)…

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  21. Anonymous

    My youngest son. I honestly don’t think that, over the years, it’s been his intention, but nevertheless he has. I don’t see that changing either so I just try the best I can to do what I can to protect my heart.

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  22. Evolving door

    My ex of 11 years . His betrayal of our relationship shook me to the core of my being and made me question my self worth . He hurt our children when he abandoned our family for a new one and left us in a state of destitution . He sold everything we owned that was worth anything including the kids xbox and took off I didn’t even have a car to drive . And I hurt myself by letting that happen to me , for trusting someone that much as it was a complete surprise to me when it happened . I thought he had my back and that he loved me . I was blinded by my love for him . I knew our relationship want perfect but I had no idea what was really going on . Now I am trying to move^n with a new man , a really great guy who loves meand is fantastic to my children but what my ex dd effects me every day and every aspect of my new relationship as had s I try not to let it . I feel like damaged goods . I hope and pray that time will heal my wounds and one day I will be able to live free of the pain that my ex caused . That I won’t be living in te wake of the disaster he caused and I sat by and let happen . Some days I feel really strong like I did before it happened , then therea days like today when the lnelyness creeps in and the weakness takes over . When I lay in bed all day unshowered with a pillow over my head to stifle the sobs when suicide seems like the only relief from the pain . I’ve always had problems with depression but never this bad . I don’t blame him completely for what happened o know I played my part and I know I’m playing the victim on days like today I also know that I won’t let myself suffer like this forever that I won’t let myself wallow in self pithy forever that I will be t strong confident woman I once was . And I will not let this tragic event ruin the relationship I’m growing with my now boyfriend n future husband . I was lucky enough to find love the first time and have been even luckier to find it again I will come back from this and I’m well on my way ! What a relief to get this off my chest thank goodness for this web site , very healing !

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  23. dawn

    my husband has hurt me even though i have cheated on him at one point. i hate myself for doing it cause he is making me pay ever since, emotionly and physically…i wish i could take it back but i cant,,,and their isnt a day that goes by that he will ever let it go or let me go,,, i almost have to end my life to get over this

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  24. Anonymous

    My father. Growing up, I had to deal with the emotional abuse he placed on the family. I remember running to my room when he got home, pulling the blankets over me, and crying my eyes out as he yelled at my mom and siblings about money, how clean the house was, and how stupid we were. It was constant, whenever he was home. I did everything I could to get away from him, whether it was going to a friend’s, the neighbor’s, or my grandmother’s. Don’t get me wrong, he always provided for us. But my mother was a stay at home mom and he worked. Whenever we needed anything, even something essential like tampons or pads, we were afraid to ask him for the money. He hasn’t changed at all and I try not to talk to him more than I have to. I resent him for making my a childhood a fear-filled one.

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  25. Shazza

    My husband who acts like the father described above. Will I trust again? I only hope my kids don’t marry someone like their father. Thankfully threw him out and he shall not be allowed back in. Has to park down the road if he wants to see his children, I won’t have in my house anymore. Tried to be nice, but the texts are still abusive, controlling and sarcastic, then assumes he can have the kids for a day on the weekend!! I have forgiven and seem to have to keep forgiving. When does he wake up and admit his behaviour is wrong?

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  26. anonymous

    My husband. I used to have a healthy self-esteem before we married, but then we married, and he had a laundry list of things that were “wrong” with me. He never misses a chance to criticize me. I have to get out of the marriage and quick.

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  27. Insecure But Fighting On...

    My family really hurt me the most. I grew up with parents who literally hated me. Took their anger out on me and I just never lived up to their expectations. I became very depressed and believed that there was something drastically wrong with me. There isnt. I have had to do lots of soul searching and counselling to find that out. I cannot forget what they did, but I have to forgive them. Its hard. I have my own family now. I still have lots of depression issues that I struggle with – lots of self-confidence stuff and walls that I put up to defend myself – but I go on because I have my own children to think about. I dont talk to my family anymore. I cut all ties and I feel better for it – but if I had a wish, I would wish more than anything to have a family that loved me and their grandchildren.

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  28. Anonymous

    My father hurt me by being a raging alcoholic and being emotionally & verbally abusive calling me every disgusting name in the book for as long as I can remember. My mom died last year and while she was dying, he would tell me that she didn’t like me around so much (which she said wasn’t true at all), he threatened to call the sheriff to remove me from the house although I did nothing wrong. I just said, “go ahead, I’m not leaving.” He never called, but threatened more than once. He has lied to me. He has NEVER given me a compliment to my face, yet he will say nice/good things about me to others. I suspect that is because he wants to be told he must be a good father if I turned out so well. He is a narcissist and makes everything about him.

    My mother also hurt me by choosing my father over me. On the weekends I would ask her if we could do something and she would say, “I’d rather be with your father.” This is while he was also emotionally and verbally abusive to her as well…and I was a kid.

    I have also been hurt by my brother, because he hasn’t talked to me much since he left home at 17 and he resents me for things that happened in Kindergarten. He says he can’t help the way he feels.

    I have been hurt by one of my former best friends who abandoned me when my mom was dying. She stopped being my friend, stopped answering my calls, responding to e-mails and even dropped me as a FaceBook friend…all without any kind of explanation. I don’t understand if someone can tell you they love you like a sister can stop so suddenly. We never got into an argument, she never told me why, she just cut me out. It’s been almost 2 years.

    That’s enough for now, but unfortunately I’ve been hurt much more.

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  29. Cindy

    I have been hurt by a gang who has stalked me on the internet.Its still going on and been going on 4 years now ,and the guy who runs the website has got rid of me and let the trolls stay on the site.i have reported this to the law. and they just brush it under the carpet.

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