Does your spouse make fun of you?


Does your spouse ever make fun of you? If so, what does he make fun of and how do you react?

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24 thoughts on “Does your spouse make fun of you?

  1. meohmy

    Only in good natured fun. Never cruel or deameaning. I make fun of him too – again, just teasing with him. We have learned to laugh at ourselves for some of the silly things we do over and over.

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    1. Anonymous

      I have been married to my husband for almost 17 years. He has made fun of me, usually in front of other people many times. Sometimes to people we have just met. We have no close friends. He will not admit that he did anything hurtful, and usually just leaves the room, or goes to bed ( his favorite avoidance tactic) when I confront him. Tonight he made fun of how when I lie down, my breasts flatten and my bra cups will dent if he pokes at them. I was completely humiliated, and as he pointed and laughed, mouth open, face red, I hated him for having the power to hurt me. When I tried to get him to stop he got angry and went to bed at 7:30 pm. I feel trapped and sad.

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      1. Donna

        My husband makes fun of me in front of people from our church and my family, friends. My feeling are hurt by what he say’s . I try to confront him and he gets upset and tells me are you starting with that again. And I just get know were.?

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  2. Anonymous

    Yes, but he thinks he’s only being funny. Sometimes it hurts my feelings and I smack him, but he’s getting better. 😉

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  3. fiveinthehive

    My husband makes fun of me all the time. Sometimes it’s cute and I laugh along with him, but other times it is extremely hurtful and I just want to punch him in the mouth but he just winds up being “cut off” for a while – length of time can depend on the severity of the hurtfulness.

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  4. Anonymous

    My husband makes fun of me all the time and it hurts. He likes to do it in front of his friends and family. Its getting worse now that, we have been married for 19 years.

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  5. peeking in

    Sometimes my husband calls me ‘kid’, that bugged me early in our marriage because he is 16 years older than me. But then I noticed he did that to everyone occationally. Though sometimes it still kind of buggs me.

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  6. pdl

    When i first met my husband i was a little big and he would always tell me if i lost weight he would love me more… we dated for 2 years and got married.. well then i got pregnant and gained it back plus more..now our daughter is 6 and I’m still big even bigger..all he ever says is i can do better,I’m lazy,that i can look like that girl that he is looking at.. i try to lose weight but then i just melt down and cry… why do i deserve this God..why can’t he just love me for who i am. I look at myself blaming myself for looking like this..he says he loves me but i really don’t think that he does.. i don’t believe in divorse but i also don’t believe in having a life that you feel horriable living.. please pray for me…

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  7. anonymous

    Yes, he makes fun of me. It started on our honeymoon and it has never stopped. He teases/makes fun of/critizes anything and everything. He’s cruel and mean about it and doesn’t stop even when I say it hurts my feelings. He thinks that’s funny, because then he knows he “got” me. So after ten years of marriage, I learned that if I don’t show any response, he’ll stop sooner, but it still hurts and I cry myself to sleep.

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  8. Anonymous

    My husband allows his brother to make fun of me and I even caught them talking about me together and laughing at my expense .

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  9. Anonymous

    My husband likes to go behind my back and tells lies in the form of joking. People I don’t know but they know him, then when I finally talk to them or meet them. they say things about me like they know me and I don’t know what the heck they are talking about. Sometimes I hate him so much because it hurts. I can’t understand why he does this.

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  10. Donna

    The other night me and my husband go to drop his dad and brother off the airport my husband is talking In Spanish to his brother then turns over to me and asks me if I went to the gym a shy person so I respond yes I did but in a nervous way they both start laughing so hard and his brother comments you went hard in the gym and I say yes they laugh some more then my husband grabs my hand kisses it and responds I love this girl wtf is that I’m confused… Any advice

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  11. KN

    My husband makes fun of me as an act to make up for his parents mostly. That kills me. He exaggerates and makes them her what they want to. At other times he crosses limits while making fun of how i do things etc in front of others that i have stopped feeling the desire to be with people when he is around. I tried talking to him. Sometimes he understands. Other times, he thinks making his family laugh at my expense is his way of showing them that he is still a part of them or something i cant seem to comprehend!

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    1. Anonymous

      Omg.. exactly the same situation with me.. He always make fun of me in front of his parents and siblings just to please them. And they do the same because they see that my husband doesn’t respect me. And he never ever appreciates me always criticises me for everything I do.. and if he like something I did or cooked or anything he just stays quiet.. that’s so hurting 🙁 he is 21 years older than me. Don’t know if he is self conscious or what

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  12. Anonymous

    He makes fun of me all the time. He shows disrespect towards me never praise me or appreciate the stuff I do. I’m tired of it, since he himself is over sensitive I can’t tell him, how much his words hurt me.

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  13. howaida

    Yes all the time I have 2 kids and I have left over from my son so my husband always brings up losing weight and he grabs my stomach and wiggles it then laughs. Also I asked him if he is attracted to me or if hethinks im ugly he said I am not the ugliest and he made up a song reminding me that I am overweight also everytime I get the motivation to diet he smacks me down in some way to make me feel worthless or ugly and when I am upset I eat.

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  14. Anonymous

    Yes, my husband teases me and makes me the butt of every joke when we go out in social situations. I think he is trying to relieve tension because he has social anxiety, but it hurts. I don’t know what to think- does he really think so little of me, or does he just not know when to stop? But even when we’re alone, he tells me he thinks the world of me, but then only points out all the things I can’t do or I wouldn’t be good at. On the other hand, he never makes fun of the way I look and keeps telling me I’m sexy, so I know that if he thinks well of me he’ll say so. I know I’m more than a pretty face- I’m smart and competent too- but to hear him talk, I’m just a dumb bimbo with a great ass. 🙁

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  15. Dumb

    My husband makes fun of my physical issues.Because I constantly complain of my back(serious issue)and my foot.He makes fun of how I walk and bends over with his hand on his back pretending to be me.I have had it.

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  16. AP

    My husband too makes fun of me. Recently he told that I am not talented enough to get a job in a funny manner in front of his mother. It really hurt me and I cried for sometime. It’s been only 3yrs since we have married. I can’t work because I don’t have a work visa (I am h4 visa), he knows that, even then he makes fun of me.

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  17. Me

    My husband made fun of me to his sister over something dumb I did once. She loved it! I felt like shit and have never forgiven either of them for it.

    My husband still makes fun of me but the worst part is that my daughter and him gang up on me. She can be so mean that it’s hurtful. I blame him for this.

    This marriage has been one of me forgiving him for lies about his education, debt, gambling addiction, texting women and even finding memberships to adult dating sites. I feel like i am his provider and I just want respect.

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  18. Kay

    My husband posted a picture on his Facebook page of a T Shirt saying ” My Wife Is Crazy And I’m Not Afraid To Use Her” — we are not Facebook “Friends” so it had been up there for a long time before I saw it. He acts like he’s 14. He swears he loves me – but then posts this garbage for his friends/family to see. It’s like he enjoys trying to destroy my reputation. I have been a good wife — and I would never do that to him in a million years. Because of comments he’s made in the past, his family hates me already and many of his friends haven’t even met me but think I”m nuts. His reply when I called him on it? ” I thought it was cute — especially when you’re mad. It fits” Gee, thanks for the love. Putting your wife down behind her back so everyone can laugh at her? He can have some other crazy woman make his lunches – rub his feet – clean his house. Now who’s laughing?

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  19. Nick

    These comments made me so sad that such people exist. I hurt for any woman who feels attacked and belittled by the one person who is supposed to be her guardian through life. I know we all come from different religious backgrounds and cultural beliefs, but ladies, all of you deserve love and respect and if you aren’t receiving that I pray you find the strength and understanding to make the necessary changes for yourself. Don’t buy the “I’m joking” or “you’re too sensitive” mind games. If it hurts you, it’s real. Find your happiness.

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  20. Anonymous

    My husband of 30 years makes comments when we are with other couples about how I’m always mad at him–that his dog house is air conditioned. We have not been at odds at all prior to these comments. It’s his way of trying to get the other guys to join in with the “I live with a whiny wife who talks too much” banter. He thinks it’s funny, but it’s unkind to me, and uncomfortable to others for him to be complaining about me while sitting right next to me. It makes no sense to me. We rarely argue. I don’t know why he frames our life to others like he’s long-suffering a woman who talks too much and bitches at him constantly. It is just not how things are at our house. We tend to get along very well and enjoy spending time together. I do not know why he publicly says these things. It bothers me. When I point it out once we are home, he apologetic. Over the years, he’s more aware and does it less, about 3-4 occasions a year, but I feel like I just accept the apology and he’ll do it again. Then what he complains about actually happens–I’m upset with him! It’s bizarre.
    Part of the problem is his wanting to fit in, making me the conduit.
    The other part of the problem is he has no filter. He has little control over words out of his mouth.
    I don’t know that there’s a solution, but I feel better writing it out.
    Good luck to all of you who suffer from the same unkindness.

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