Do you lie to your spouse?

Do you ever lie to your husband/partner ?  If so, what was the last lie you told him?

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32 thoughts on “Do you lie to your spouse?

  1. Anonymous

    I didn’t ever, no. However, once I found out he had been lying to me all the time – well, it changes you. I definitely hide things now. I feel like I have to in order to protect myself. I don’t lie about huge things – but I do lie. He asks me if I am happy – and I lie. I say I am, but I know, deep down inside – the real feeling of happiness is forever gone. You learn to live with a certain amount of sadness every single day of your life when you find out your loved ones are liars.

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  2. Anonymous

    yes, I’ve lied to him in the past to protect him (and maybe myself sometimes). I’ve lied to him about spending money (omission is a lie) as I know he gets mad sometimes and I’m afraid of that.

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  3. Anonymous

    Yep, I lie to my husband from time to time. It’s usually about small things like spending money, when I’m due home from work (sometimes I tell him later than I’m truly going to be at work so that I have time to go run my own personal errands because the minute I get home I have kid duty), and I even lie at times about how I feel about his family (many of them are wack jobs)! From time to time, I even lie about enjoying sex. It’s not always as great as I let him believe.

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  4. Anonymous

    Yap, I do. I lie on how much I really earn. I give him smaller amount than the actual figure. I also lie about what my family says about him and about sex. A big liar!

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  5. Willow

    Yep. I have told whoppers in the past (actually they were lies of omission) about financial stuff but I do tell the little white lie in the day-to-day living. And I know he does it to/for me. “Do I look really ugly today?”, “No, honey” when you know you can look in the darn mirror and see the puffy eyes, the sallow cheeks, blah blah blah. Sometimes the little lies are what make us human and able to stand one another!

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  6. anonymous

    Yes!! All the time. Especially when it comes to him asking me how much money I’ve spent and what I spent it on.

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  7. anonymous

    Yes!!! I have lied twice about really big things. But I figure. He lies to me, so let’s see how he likes it.

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  8. Anonymous

    Thank GOD there are more of you that lie about money. I was getting child support from my kids deadbeat dad, Forcably by inprisonment. However I spent it on fun things for my kids. I probably should have spent it on bills. You know I don’t want to be rich, I just want to be able to see a cute outfit for the baby and be able to buy it. Oh well when we win the lottery.

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  9. Anonymous

    I lie all the time.Men are basically like children and don’t need to know everything that goes on in our days.If I told him the truth all the time he would probably have a breakdown. ha ha.We gals know how to be strong .

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  10. kim

    I tell my husband the truth even if I know he would probably want me to lie to him. I expect the same thing from him…and he really good at telling me the truth even when it hurts a little. About a month ago after a couple martini’s he said honey i have to tell you something – I wasn’t completely honest with you last week (I am thinking what the hell is going to tell me) he said remember when you asked me if I ate at McDonalds when I was their with a co-worker and I said not I ate the lunch you made me – well I did eat the lunch but I got a small fry too!

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  11. Anonymous

    sometimes, if ever it’s typically by “omission” and usually about money as that was the only thing we ever argue about. But he’s gotten better and so I don’t lie now.

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  12. Lee Lee

    No!
    Why lie? It’s already been established that NO ONE is perfect! Let’s accept that. So I keep it honest, even when it can be unrewarding to see the disappointment in a loved ones face as I open up about my ‘poor choice’. Besides, lying becomes a case for more lies (Martha Stewart, need I say more?) and that’s a dangerous place to be!

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  13. Anonymous

    Yes! I had racked up about 4 thousand dollars of credit card debt. No biggie to some, but we have 3 kids and make about $30,000 a year. Ouch! The stress was eating me alive, I had almost maxed 3 cards, and I didn’t know how to tell him, so I just didn’t. For like, 3 months. Finally I told him, the conversation took a while because I had a hard time telling me directly. He took it pretty well, except the part that I had lied for so long about it. We figured out how to pay it down, there went our small tax return and it was tight. But I was glad he didn’t yell and bite my head off. He’s lied about porn several times but I don’t yell either, it’s kind of an unspoken deal. Coming clean is dang hard, why make the person feel even worse.

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  14. anonymous

    I do sometimes, mostly by omission. I’m very private, and I like to hide things – it’s just my nature. I try to be sure that the things I don’t tell him are no big deal (like that I smoked two cigarettes one day or that I was chatting with a friend when I was supposed to be working) but that makes it almost worse. He knows me inside out and often correctly guesses. He’s more bothered by the lies than the things I try to hide, but he’s understanding about why I do it. We’re both pretty forgiving of eachother’s bad habits.

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  15. jessica

    No, I don’t lie to my husband. I love our relationship too much to jeopardize it by lying and then have him not trusting me. And he makes it easy to be honest because he is so patient and forgiving and non-judgemental of me. I am really grateful for him.

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  16. Kristi

    Nope, I try not to tell him how much I spend on stuff…which is useless since he monitors every penny I spend. lol I really have zero reason to lie.

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  17. Anonymous

    I try not to. Even though I catch him in lies all the time. Did you pay this bill? Yes, Honey. Did you stop by this place? Yes, Honey. All sorts of stupid things, for years. Tried to fix it, don’t think I ever will though. Just wish I understood why he feels the need to do it.

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  18. Anonymous

    I have to agree with the first post on this topic. When you are 100% honest from day one and your spouse lies to you it ruins something that can never be repaird. I still don’t lie, even after being lied to. Not sure how I would feel at the end of the day if I fell to that level, I am who I am, take it or leave it doesn’t hurt me either way. No one is perfect. It takes a bigger person to be honest and face the rath wether it big or small

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  19. danielle

    I have always been pretty honest in my marriage, not lying for 12 years pretty much. Then I made the decision to attend a party friends of mine were having that I really didn’t want to take my husband to because he just generally is a home body and doesn’t like those things. Rather than chance hurting his feelings, I lied in order to attend. I didn’t have any plans to do anything morally wrong and I didn’t do anything to endanger my vows to my husband, but I felt awful nonetheless. It ate at me for weeks, so I decided finally to tell him. I told him, and now though I feel relieved, it feels like something is different and I hate what I have done. I will not do that again.

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  20. Anonymous

    Never about anything that I think is important…just little lies like if I forgot to mail out a payment. It reminds me when he asks and then I just do it the next day. But that’s really it. I know he’s done the same thing and it doesn’t bother me because they’re not things that are important to our relationship IMO.

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  21. Lisa

    I lie all the time. I don’t know why. I guess to save myself. My husband is controlling and suspicious. I lie mostly about giving our grown kids money. He doesn’t think they should come to us for anything anymore unless it is an emergency. I know how tough it is to make it with the economy like it is and with problems in their lives.

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  22. Chris

    If you’re lying to your husband, your marriage isn’t very strong. It’s a shame too. Unfortunately, too many people these days have no idea what it takes to make a strong, successful marriage. And if you’re continuously lying, well, you have no idea either. You ought to be ashamed. None of your reasons are legitimate.

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  23. Anonymous

    Everybody lies. Those who said you never lie, that was a lie. I tell “little white lies” all the time. I’ve told some big ones in my past. I’ve come clean after awhile because they was bad and I felt guilty. There is one lie that I will take to my grave.

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  24. Anonymous

    WELL IM NOT EXACTLY MARRIED YET BUT I COULD USE SOME ADVICE ON MY SITUATION. I TOLD MY FIANCE THAT I WAS BEING SEXUALLY HARRASSED AT WORK AND HE FEELS LIKE I LIED TO HIM AND NOW HE IS NOT REALLY TALKING TO ME. TECHNICALLY I DIDNT LIE, WHEN HE ASKED ME ABOUT IT I WAS JUST GETTING GENERAL COMPLIMENTS. BUT IT STARTED TO GET WORSE RECENTLY. AT FIRST I WASN’T GONNA TELL HIM BUT I JUST COULDNT HOLD IT IN ANY LONGER AND I COULD NO LONGER HANDLE IT BY MYSELF. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO NOW.

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  25. Anonymous

    I lie to my husband about home repair stuff. He is also a recovering addict and has issues with perfectionism and control. In order to get the stuff done that we need done to the house, I lie. He would flip his top over perceived issues of quality if Michaelangelo was personally painting our house. I feel like I’m going to have a heart attack whenever we have to have any work done to the house. In order to get the job done, I lie. I hate having to lie to him, but it’s better than waiting for him come to some sense of rationality on his own time. Sometimes you have to lie to someone to do what’s best for them.

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  26. anonymous

    Yes, I have to lie, in order to survive, to protect myself, my feelings. He’s a control freak and if I don’t give him the answer he wants to hear, I get yelled at. Doesn’t matter if it’s about my day, the weather, money, or whatever. It’s a rotten marriage that I’m going to end soon.

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  27. nikki

    I think it’s so wrong to lie but I recently lied about some stupid things. I went behind his back and didn’t tell him what I had done. I felt horrible and it felt so wrong during and after. I kept it from him to save us. I’m still keeping one secret from him but he found out the rest because I don’t cover my tracks very well. I’m so hurt about it because he knows the truth but only because he found it on my phone and not by me telling him, which makes it worse.. Everytime, I’ve gotten caught which is even worse. If I would’ve just told him in the first place immediately after then we would be great right now. That’s all he wanted. He’s so sweet and amazing..I want us to work though and I will do what it takes. No more lying or hiding things from him. I’m so ashamed. Don’t lie unless you can handle it emotionally or if it’s a little white lie. We’re only human.

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