Do you get jealous when your husband talks to other women?
June 3rd, 2008
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Do you ever get jealous when your husband talks to other women? If so, has he given you a reason to be jealous?76 Responses to “Do you get jealous when your husband talks to other women?”
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Nope. I know I can trust him. But, there are times. Times when I wonder. Being in the military, he works late a lot and there’s always moments when I worry. In the end, though, I know.
I Pretend to, and make fun of him ‘chatting up’ the check out girls. Old ladies just LOVE him! He’s just a very congenial person.. and people are attracted to him.
I get more annoyed at the younger ladies who think they can chat HIM up!
Even though I know he would never be unfaithful, he’s a tremendous flirt (sometimes without even realizing it). Yeah, I’m jealous. I want to be the only one he talks to like that.
I always said never too…NEVER say never…
Yes. He has given me absolutely no grounds for jealousy, I don’t think that straying from the marriage would ever even enter his mind, but jealousy is my nature. I have self-esteem and confidence issues. He goes to work and is around women who try to look nice for their job, and then comes home to me. And I haven’t taken a shower in days and I’m wearing baggy jeans and an old t-shirt and I’m not wearing makeup and my hair isn’t done. And a part of me always wonders if he doesn’t prefer the dressed-up women he works with.
My husband is handsome! We all thinks ours is the best, right? So when he flashes that gorgeous smile at another woman, and I hear the laughter that I used to laugh, and I know her heart is skipping a beat like mine still does, I get very jealous. It’s all innocent, but it can turn un-innocent in a second.
Totally. I am SO jealous. I mean, I know he’s not going anywhere, but it still makes me nervous since I don’t feel super pretty at the moment.
(a few months post baby) I know that I can trust him, but hey, I’m just so darn possessive!
Yes, I get jealous and petrified. He has had 4 relationships, internet-based but 3 of the women we met in person, and each one was more serious than the last. The last one just about wrecked our marriage when he told me he loved her and not me… turns out he was “in a fog” and didn’t really mean it but the damage was done.
Absolutely not. I trust him completely. There’s no reason on Earth to be jealous, it’s a waste of time and energy.
No. In fact, I wish he’d talk to other women! He annoys me so much and is always underfoot–being home all the time–that I’ve actually told him to “find another woman.” But alas, he won’t. Of course, if he did, my human nature would probably dictate that I’d be angry at him, even though I specifically told him to find someone else! I never said I made sense… Just answerin’ the question.
No. I would trust my husband with Catherine Zeta Jones.
Absolutely! He has always been insanely jealous of every man (and some women!) on the planet, so why shouldn’t I? Besides, his stupid butt had a two-week affair with a ho-bag 11 years younger only 2 years ago while I was in the hospital trying NOT to give birth to our fourth child (I was at 32 weeks at the time and he was born at 36 weeks). His standards have changed, too. The ho-bag isn’t even pretty - she looks like a peasant - and all he used to date were models (I was one of the live Barbie dolls in Texas). Hmmm…I guess looks really don’t matter when a woman shows a man affection and total adoration, huh?
I can’t say that I get jealous…I think I’m more worried about some other woman turning stalker.
My husband was a huge flirt when we met and I always told myself that I would know when he was dead cause he would stop flirting, but on the other hand when he flirts women fall all over themselves. He has more friends online that are madly in love with him than you can imagine and all I think to myself is…oh that poor girl. you see as I am hopelessly devoted to him he is equally devoted to me. But a little competition for me never hurts, reminds me of what I have and not to get casual about how truly wonderful my husband is.
No not really, after 18 years and 4 kids theres no reason, to jealous, if he was going to play around he would have done this when we where young and thin, not fat and old,
Sometimes even though i no reasons. He is madly in love we me and I know it each and every day. It’s more my being unhappy with gaining some weight (from a 10 to a 12) that makes me get jealous.
I honestly don’t mind if he plays around. In fact under the right circumstances it kind of turns me on. And I enjoy getting extra attention too. However I got so fed up with his wandering interests under the wrong circumstances (which I have wrestled with for as long as we’ve been together) that I put the stop on any further wandering. But now that puts me in the position of feeling like we have to mistrust eachother and police eachother’s moves, which I hate even more than misbehaving itself. It’s a mess either way - but still we’re all the more in love for going through all this together.
I have to say I do get jealous… To me it’s because every woman in my family has been cheated on and I see the pain that it has brought them and I wouldn’t want to even think about going through something like that. I know what kind of woman my husn=band likes and If she happens to fit the description, then that makes it worse for me. I trust him, but I know that NOONE is untouchable. ANYONE can fall
Yes. I am jealous because of myself. I don’t always have the self confidence I should. The extra weight does not help. He has never given me a reason to not trust him but I often do wonder how far he would let an attractive lady push the bar. He has let someone not his type say things to him which as I was told was a joke. I know she was not at all someone of interest to him but if he let her “joke” around and make comments what would he do with someone who was his type? I’d like to say he would stop things but I have my doubts. Temptation is a ugly thing. I’ve fallen to it and he knows. It makes me wonder if at some point he might do the same. I don’t think I’d handle the way he did. It would kill me on the inside.
To a degree. My husband is a incredibally sexy guy who gets looks all the time, thats not what bothers me. What gets me is when I see my husband looking at another female google eyed if you will and when I ask him what he was looking at(knowing damn well what) he will say “oh that car” or “that sign”…So its not so much jealousy its the dishonesty that drives me up the wall….
Yes. Because of his history of cheating, it doesn’t matter what the woman looks like..I always think he’s thinking of having sex with her.
Once you lose the trust, you never get it back.
But then again I’m the dummy that is staying….
YES!! But only if it’s women from his work. He travels a lot, and there is so much temptation there. But, I don’t let it consume me. He hasn’t given me too much reason not to trust him. It will be what it will be, I guess.
My husband is a ‘bad boy’ with that ‘bad boy’ appeal and it does his ego good for woman to pay attention to him. I told him in our first year of marriage that he was married not dead, he can look at the menu all he want, but he better eat at home!
i hate when he checks out other girls and i know its only human to stare, but it doesnt make me jealous even though i know he would never cheat on me, but the thing that bothers me most is the checking out other girls and then when i say “i saw that” hes like what? huh? i just want to slap him!!!!!!!!!!
I guess I am jealous of my husband. I get a little upset when he is looking at another woman especially if she is younger and smaller than I am. I am 5′9 and 160 lbs. It makes me feel as though he doesn’t want to look at me or wished I looked like some of these other pretty women with these gorgeous bodies. I feel a little ashamed because I have gained some weight since we married. I believe he loves me and he is very good to me and shows and tells me he loves me. But still he does look. Some women stated that their husband would act like he wasn’t looking at another woman whenever she confronted him about it. Well, that is the way my husband is. He will act like I am crazy and ask me what I am talking about. That makes mw really mad too. I would like an email buddy. If someone needs an eamil buddy as well please feel free to let me know through this and we can exchange addresses.
Not at all. I love watching him talk to other women because there is such a phenomenal difference between the way he communicates with them, than when he is sweet towards me. His tone and body language say so much, and it makes me feel like the most special person in his life.
Recently we were with friends at a night club. We are a very close group of friends and I am used to the guys making innocent passes at the ladies. While my husband and I were dancing, some of my younger friends, who are much better built, tried to dance with us. He wouldnt even make eye contact. I could tell that they expected more attention- they certainly had mine. Rather than jealous, I felt tickled that he made such an obvious attempt to look bored at their flirting.
He can TALK to other women all he wants, but if he’s spending time alone with one, then we’ve got a problem.
i hate it when my huaband looks at other girls and sometimes he talks to them and he gets “too close” i seriously want to go up to him and beat his knees in with a bat… my husband cheated on me for 4 years, boy am i a dumbass. its been three years (since my son was born) since he has cheated on me. THAT I KNOW OF. i hate it and if we didnt have two babies and i had a way out i would not put my self through this. MEN SUCK! i wish i were a lesiban =D
OMG! Yes, I SO get jealous and I don’t want to be that way. He has cheated on me before, more than once. Actually about five times. I have stuck it out with him even though one of the women was my best friend at the time. He was incarcerated for three years and I left him ten months after he went to prison and stayed gone for five months. Sorry! Straying off the subject! I hate it when he talks to other women but he is in a halfway house right now with women and men. He told me just yesterday that I needed to lose weight…..go on a diet. I don’t really care if he chooses to leave but I guess I hate the idea that someone else would have him and why I don’t know. So how can I maybe stop being so jealous of a man that cheats??
yes i get jealous. Hard not to when he played me and another girl before we got married (not that i knew till after we were married) and then he spent a lot of time with another girl for about 8 months and its hard not to think that when he doesn’t come straight home or doesn’t answer when i call or i see that that girl called him or texted him. It drives me batty i wish we could get away from here
I hate it. It drives me nuts. I know it gives him a big head to chat it up with the ladies but it ruins my self esteem. No woman in her right mind goes after a good looking successful man for friendship. They all want love and marriage even if they have to destroy a marriag already in place. I hate to know I am at home raising our child, never getting a break and he is out there living it up with all the freedom to talk to woman whenever he wants. He tells me about it and how they are pathedic but it just makes me feel worse. Whatever, marriage is forever and even though I’d like to get in my car and drive to the other coast, I know I have to deal and make the best of it.
Yes I get jealous. Especially when they send text messages that I intercept. It sucks but he has cheated on me once before (possibly twice) so once bitten, twice shy kinda deal. I now have PW’s to his email accts so there is no way he can send or receive messages without my knowing. So far, so good.
yes, no bit i feel jealouse, each time i go out with my husband i check if he is looking to beautiful girls and i wonder if he wishes to have sex with other women. if he goes to work i imagen he is talking and laughing with other women. sometimes i fight with him when he comes home just to feel releaf from jealousy
YES BECAUSE MY HUSBAND DID CHEAT ON HIS EX WIFE AND I SOMETIMES WONDER IF HE WLL DO THE SAME TO ME. I HAVE FOUND PICTURES OF WOMEN ON HIS EMAIL NAKED AND SHOWING THEIR PRIVATEB PARTS AND THE SAD THING IS THEY KNOW HE IS MARRIED IT JUST MAKE ME FEEL SO SAD MY HEART BREAKS EACH TIME I LOOK AT THE PICTURES
Do you have a solution to this torture? at least a book to read to
have a way to deal with the impossible situation?
I have been married to the same guy for 23 years, When I was 6 months Pregnant, he was spending time with his ex wife,he went to her birthday party!and spent the afternoon with all her relatives.He meets women & if they pay any attention to him, He starts acting stupid he has even, talked to them in baby talk!just today, the new girl at the office called him After working hours… & asked if she had trouble opening the door to the office on SUNDAY, could she call him and get help! this drive me crazy.Yes I get jealous!!!
of course I get jealous.hubby’s never cheated on me. we’ve been married 24 years.I hate feeling like this. i’m an attractive women.But i know,that my hubby has to deal with women at his work.He hates it that im jealous and says baby,you’re stuck with me and i with you.please don’t ruin a good thing.Sometimes he doesn’t tell me about the “new” women/girl they hired afraid of me asking him who is she,how old is she and our favorite ladies…is she cute. his response is always…baby don’t worry she’s just a worker and you have nothing to worry about. So why is it that i worry? LOL. I swear he get furious when i want to know about the ladies that work there. He always says…baby you think i’d destroy what we have? i tell him i don’t know. All i know is i don’t trust any women big,small or however she looks. All women are beautiful. what one doesn’t have always wants. if that makes any sense.So… what do i do? i pray and ask GOD to give me strenght cause he know i hate feeling so jealous. My hubby says he gets jealous of other men,but he doesn’t let it take over his mind if he did he would go crazy…like me. So ladies…my advice would be stay strong and PRAY. Because ,really we have no controll of any women.We only have controll of our thoughts. GOD bless….
Jealous on Earth.
I hate him talking to other women…and women hanging to his every word. If they only knew the REAL guy they’d stop. Live with him for a week and see if you want to flirt with him………………………………….
I get jealous alright. Been married for 2 yrs and been together 4 yrs altogether. I’m just a jealous and possessive person by nature. I love my husband much and know to myslef he is a sweet person and any woman really I think would want him for themself.
We also have a son together. He hasn’t given me any reason to think he’s cheated and he is very open with me about anything, but I still get jealous. Maybe I have self esteem issues…. I don’t really know. I’m attractive and get looks quite alot myself. The problem I really think is that we have had a rough couple of months and that has put a strain on me into thinking he might want to go. I don’t want to live without him and would rather he died than see him with someone else. I am consumed with jealousy and wish sometimes he’d go blind or something happen so that no one else would even look at him but me. Sounds mental but thats how I feel.
I am asking God to help me through it though.
Yes!I’m jealous. I believe he doesn’t cheat and he said he was just a nice guy. But I don’t like him to chat with other women especially by office e-mail, or text message of cell phone which I can’t witness.
He tells me a small white lie when he has to or wants to chat with other women not to upset me. That makes me more suspicious.
My friend found that her husband told an another woman on the cell phone text that he felt lonely even with his wife. She was fully upset.
Men are more jealous and not forgiving when his wife cheats or flirt with other guys, but they always excuse that they did such a stupid things to get more attention from women because their wives are not nice or controlling or selfish ..blablaaa…
I always want to say….If lonely, talk to your wife. If your wife really don’t care, divorce and then go to other women. Your wife is not your mom or sister. You need to take care of her as an individual from other background. period.
YES, we have huge trust issues because he’s lied to me in the past. He’s lied about ALOT of things so the trust is completely gone. I know I don’t deserve the disrespect but what can I do I’m married and with a baby girl.
I have been married for 27 years and was always jealous of other women…My husband is VERY attractive and works with women and they are most of his customers….I HATE the flirting, but he always assured me nothing would EVER happen……Well, it did…when I finally let my guard down and wasn’t jealous of this one employee! She was also my friend, Or so I thought…..Don’t EVER let your guard down and NEVER say NEVER!
I don’t like it he is always flirting with them and its not very polite- we are married - i don’t trust him
Well I get jealous, I don’t think I’d be that bad if he was bothered about me, we’ve been together for about 21 years, and he’s a door man, when he’s with me most of the time he’s on the computer never wants to take me out says he’s gonna. When it was my birthday but it never happened didn’t even get aa card, he works at a cetain pub and iknow he’s got to be civil to people, but now he’s going out with them a few men but mostly girls ( about 17 years younger) he comes i’m wanting to go out. And even take the night off work to go he wouldn’t ask me to go even if others was taking partners, I thinks he doesn’t want me to see what he does, I’ve seen him before with the girls you wouldn’t think it’s the same person, if there’s any family do’s he doesn’t want to go, or if I drag him somewhere he just sits there a complete opposite of what he’d be like with the others, A couple of years ago he was texting another women, he went outwith work and I found out as soon as he left he was texting her and foneing her probably to get her to come out, he’s 40yrs old and around girls he’s like a little schoolboy, but I’ve had enough he seems like he doesn’t want to take me out or do things but will jump hoops to go out with work, I thought we had a good relationship I thought he was a trustworthy guy but he teats the girls slot better than me, I look after everything at home 2 children and I’m disabled he does nothing willingly, he uses a car which is supposed to be for me, which is ok to go to work and back but he will stay behind and wait till eveyone has finished and give all the girls a lift home I don’t agree but then he will do it behind my back, he just has to be best friend with the ladies what work there, the thing is I’m disabled I think he uses me for the car and money, and noone else will have a diabled woman, I wouldn’t be that bad if he tested me better bd not mke me feel like second best, sorry to go on
I’m upset because I don’t want my husband to eat out with other women at work. He went with another man and two women that sounds like a double date to me. I don’t mind groups. One man and woman he goes with all the time. I don’t understand why he can’t just go out with men. OH and if I did what he does he’d be pissed. A double standard! OH and if I dont go along with it than “we just can’t get a long”!!! He than proceeds to verbally abuse me by saying shut up, F__K You, bitch, and etc. I feel horrible about myself because he treats me like crap!
No. But, I was shocked to learn that I was jealous when our friend spoke to another woman! I have had a crush on this man for a few years now and it was the first time I really felt that crushing pang of jealousy since high school. I trust my husband, but this man is married with two children and has been developing a friendship with me that I thought was unique. So, when he smiled at and spoke to this other woman, I wondered if that is what it looks like when we are together and if what we have is really as special as I thought it was.
No, not at all. My husband has never given me reason to ever doubt him or mistrust him. We’ve been married 27 years now so I’m sincerely hoping nothing in that department ever changes.
I don’t doubt that if something ever happened to me and say I passed away, the gals would be lining up for him. Not sure what he’d do with that. He’s the sort of man that needs to have a wife and/or a woman in his life. Otherwise he’d go into himself and just cocoon. We’ve talked about this before so he knows that my greatest wish for him, should that happen, is that he would find himself another partner.
In the meantime, he’s mine and that’s exactly (thankfully) right where he wants to be.
Well I never used to be that kind of girl. But when my husband and I were just dating he was so bad to me and cheated and looked and spoke and who knows what else. Now were married and I still feel like he may do it again even though he has promised me and since we have been married has done nothing to hurt me. So I am now and it stinks because it makes me sad all the time.
Yes I’m extremely jealous. Been with husband 7 years married one year. I hate him so much as looking at another woman let alone flirting! No reason to be, just way I feel
Yes I get jealous that he talks to other women on IM and who knows what else. He cheated on me before we got married (aren’t I stupid?) and again about a year ago with a “close” girlfriend of mine. Here is how a man defends himself when he has done something wrong:
Wife: “Why were you talking to her?”
Husband: (looks innocent)
Wife: “I know you, are you up to something?”
Husband (looking hurt, goes on the attack) “I promised you, baby, that I would never treat you that way, and you hurt me so much when you don’t trust me. Are we ever going to move past this?”
Wife: “Oh, I’m sorry, you’re right.”
Husband wins. Every freaking time. And I know to him it’s a game. I don’t know if I hate myself more for still loving him, or for having been stupid enough to commit to this life. It’s a tough pill to swallow.
For the most part, I don’t get jealous. My husband mainly talks to women we both know…our friends, acquaitances, etc. so that doesn’t worry me. Once in a while, at a party maybe, if there is a woman who is particularly attractive and he’s talking to her a lot, it may bother me. Really, I’m only bothered if it’s one of those women who is overtly sexual, wearing very revealing clothing or who is flirting with all the men.
My husband always used to say that it is terrible when people assume friendships with others of the opposite sex are affairs. We’ve been married for 25 years. I just read his emails for the first time this week and learned that he has been sneaking around for years. Now I am planning for a divorce. It is doubtful I’ll ever be able to trust any man again.
yes i get mad when i see him talkin to other women i dont know why but it make’s me so upset
Yes!!!! I really hate him talking to the girls at his work or customers.. I don’t trust him…He cheated on me with a girl at his past job about 8 years ago (he was just talking to her but still). Then he just recently cheated on me again with a co worker and a customer. SO F*** YES, I HATE IT WHEN HE TALKS OR EVEN LOOKS AT ANOTHER GIRL. I know that I am stupid for staying but we have two kids and I love him more than anything in this world. I would never want to see myself with out him or as a single parent. I hope this time he was telling the truth when he told me that this will never happen again and that he was sorry. I guess I can only pray and wait and see. This was kinda nice telling someone this without really telling someone.
My husband and i have been married for 20yrs, high school sweethearts.I never got jealous until he cheated on me more than 3 times. He looks at porn all the time now and downloads it on his phone over 200 pictures. Has had crushes on family cousins and been a little touchy feely with them in the past.He pretends he’s working on it but hides his phone all the time and is sneeky on the computer. To make matters worse im am so depressed now and he always talks about me to our children. He comes and tell me that he has to fight women off at work and tells me about there conversations sometimes which he makes innocent,but who knows what really being said I need a vacation by myself and hope i can get over the jealousy thing.
My husband and i have been married for 20yrs, high school sweethearts.I never got jealous until he cheated on me more than 3 times. He looks at porn all the time now and downloads it on his phone over 200 pictures. Has had crushes on family cousins and been a little touchy feely with them in the past.He pretends he’s working on it but hides his phone all the time and is sneeky on the computer. To make matters worse im am so depressed now and he always talks about me to our children. He comes and tell me that he has to fight women off at work and tells me about there conversations sometimes which he makes innocent,but who knows what really being said I need a vacation by myself and hope i can get over the jealousy thing.
I get sooo jealous. Its crazy because I trust him. But he now has a friend who is a girl who tells him all time she wants to be friends with me but never contacts me. Weird right. They text and talk all day everyday. She just dumped a bastard and now wants my husbands advice. What the heck? And I told her I didn’t want him at her house and two days later asks him to come fix something. Oh what do I do any advice please…. We have been married for 9 yrs and together 10 and have two kids.
yah i feel so jealous.. i dont know why..maybe its because im not working right now and i am alone….my world revolves around him..sometimes i think im a.lready a pshycho coz ive beeen checking his messages on internet..and hes very nice to all the people girls and boys…but i dont tell him that i get jealous what i always do is i fight with him when he gets home with a different issues just to let go of feeling of jealousy…i hate it..its very hard.but i always pray to god that he will give me the virtue called trust.coz its not good for all of us…having this kind of feelings…..
I get extremely jealous and its a horrible feeling, my boyfriend hasnt cheated on me as far as i know, but one night when we were with friends at a resturaunt he was staring at my friend the whole time. I confronted him afterwards in tears and he said that he didnt even look at her and he doesnt even like her. We cant go out together without me looking at where he is looking in case its at a beautiful woman. I would rather he was honest every time he stared at another woman, than pretend im crazy for thinking he did. I dont know how to get over the jealousy and its ruining my life, i cant feel comfortable when he is chatting to other women
I get jealous depending on who the woman is. If it’s a random woman I know we will never see again I don’t care, but I do get jealous if it’s someone he works with or someone he knows from his past. He is part of the reason I feel this way as he’s kept things hidden from me in the past. Jealousy and trust is something I try to work on every day.
Yes, I do get jealous. He talks to them, he cares what they have to say. Me, I get a 1 minute conversation with him and that is usually him telling me what I need to do, or what’s for dinner! Big problem with my husband of almost 22 yrs. Always texting or talking with other women, yes he cheated on me before, these other women are ex girlfriends or co workers, all who don’t like me. Of course I know why, its what he says to them. That I’m too jealous! Well, sorry, but never use to be jealous, I didn’t just get that way, I was helped!!
ok on wed.nite me and my husband went to a nite club,bkaus it was karoake nite.We had been several times before, and when i got up from the table were me and my husband was sitting, to go use the bathroom he told me about a female that approach him at our table.She ask if we were togather he told her yes and then she ask if i was his girlfriend and he said no she is my wife.That didnt stop her,so now i notice when he goes to the bathroom she gets missing also.So back to wed.nite he wore apair of shades and stared at her alnite long.He totaly forgot i was at the table.I think there is more goin on with the two of them,but he denise it. I have never been so disrepected before in my life.I felt like a fool.We will never go out again togather.There is more to tell but u get the picture.All trust is gone out the window.*peace-lonelyatdaclub*
i know my husband wud neva cheat on me we both love eachother too much and we are having baby together soon..its just mayb its the pregnancy hormones making it worse but i get soooo jealous when i see a call from another woman on his mobile or if he goes to visit a female family friend…i hate the feeling and i can be up all night thinking about it and wishing i didnt love him so much that i become like over protected of him and scared of losing him. even when i see him talking to another woman and he smiles and jokes with them and i see her smiling and laughing back i cnt help but get angry inside n wanna kill her even if its innocent my mind jus runs in cirles that she fancies him and he finds her attractive too then i feel like crap inside n sumtimes dnt say nofin coz i dnt wanna argue with him and make him wanna run away frm me..arghh i hate this feeling ne1 knw how to stop the feeling???????????
YES! And i hate it! At the beginning of our marriage, which was only 1.5 yrs. ago, my husband lied to me repeatedly about some pretty serious financial issues and that totally killed the trust I had in him in ALL areas. I now feel jealous whenever I notice an attractive woman and i am convinced he is looking at her. It doesn’t help that I don’t believe him at all when he denies it since he lied to me in the eyes so many times. He is very handsome and when we were at the store the other day an older man (total stranger) commented to me on how handsome my hubby is. He told me that men want to be treated like babies and if I don’t do that he will probably divorce me! WTF!? Also, my dad told me all men cheat (though he was a huge bachelor playboy his whole life). AND my best friend who works in finance and travels all the time told me 90% of married men she encounters while traveling try to sleep with her and they are all looking to have affairs. She said her boss has a secret bank account from his wife and that is common, and “what happens on business trips stays on business trips”. I do exercise every morning at 5 and know i look nice but i don’t think it is really about looks anymore. Maybe I’m just jaded already
just want to know if its ok for men that work with woman if its ok to joke around with them… my hunband says its ok i no its not ok.. i dont joke around with another men…
Oh yes I do!!! We’ve been together for 21 years and everthing was fine un til he started work as a bouncer, 9years ago, he gets way to close to people especially the girls, at the moment the girls who work behind the bar. Are half his age but he has to give them a kiss and a cuddle he’s like one if those weird old guys who hang around with the young ones, and then at every opportunity he will go and have a laugh and a joke with one of them, he some times goes out with them all of them are at the most aged 23 and then him a 41 year old going to night clubs but he hates nightclubs he’s only going to try and be one of them, the other night I went with him because someone else invited me not him he hates it when I go, the young barmaids all coming up to him and giving him kisses and cuddles when I’m stud there, why does he have to get that close, I would mind if it was just a friendly chat but he had to give big hugs and kisses, he knows I think he shouldnt be doing it but he does it when I’m not around, he thinks the problems me not him, when I’m at work I don’t give all the men kisses and cuddles, it’s not right, just had enough
After reading all of the comments on here of all these woman that feel the same as I do… I feel a little better. I am so jealous of my husband working with other woman. He is a manager where he works, and he is always getting calls from the girls and text messages. I have told him that I don’t like it, but he says that is is work… I guess he has given me a reason to feel jealous. A girl worked with him that he went and had lunch with, well I was 8 months pregnant, and he thought that was okay to go out with her. Lets just say I’m still not over that. My question is why do we as woman get so jealous? It is the worst feeling in the world. Sometimes I just wish that I was not married or seeing a man because of how hard it is, and because of the fear of him possibly wanting to be with someone else. At times I feel like he could have crushes on other woman because he talks about woman he works with a lot. I hate it…this is defiantly not healthy for a marriage. Any advice I would so appreciate!
It’s not so uch of being jealous! I feels like being violated! You would never do that to him what give a man the right to do it to you! My husband is so emotionally attached to another woman a/k/a his partner at work…that he defend her in every way but, tell me his feels so badly for her! She just can’t keep a man! She goes through them like toilet paper. She would rather stick her nose into someone else marriage instead of finding a man who is not married! But, I am a strong believer in KARMA and I know her day will come!
Lonliness is a feeling…and i refuse to let it control me. most times it happens i take my thoughts captive and God reminds me I gave it to Him. But it can be hard when it does try to control me. i found not staying busy makes it worse, then my mind will think of worse case scenarios. There is nothing I can say or do, to keep my husband from messing up. I trust him, it’s just getting the reality of knowing he can be trusted to be my reality. i know he loves me, but he’s also human. guess that leaves plenty of room for me to forgive him, no matter what. just need to stay focused on what matters. he is married to me, and has been here through thick and thin for 18 plus years, he loves his kids and doesn’t ever want them in a broken home. he and i know each other better than anyone else. i can ALWAYS be myself around him, and know he still loves me. but i’m just as human as him. fortunately, nowadays he is compassionate and understanding on the matter.
it’s not him i don’t trust. but being a woman, i don’t trust women. i know how manipulative we can be when we want to. and that is what scares the crap out of me.
I’m only jealous when it’s one particular woman, a coworker, and yes, he’s given me a reason to be jealous. Long story short, I found sexual texts between them, he promised to have no more contact with her, but decided to keep corresponding with her and just hide it from me. I have found out about the correspondence several times now, and I’ve decided to go to counseling. I’m not jealous about any other woman though, never had a reason to be.
Yes. I don’t like it because I feel desrespected by the woman. When we go out he always “becomes” approached by a woman or two. He is so frieindly and personable; smiling, laughing at and making jokes, listening and responding to their life’s problems. He thinks that I shouldn’t care because he doesn’t care what their saying - he’s just passing the time. But I do care because 1- they think he really cares and become excited by the attention and 2- they began to cross boundaries that he should have(bt did not) give off (like touching when she laughs , continuosly moving closer, making constant eye contact.) By the time I get over there and meet the girl she’s gushing abot how fanabulous my husband is and how I’m SOOOO “lucky” becase he’s SOOOO “wonderful” and on and on. You may think this makes me feel better but, alas, it does not. They continue to play to him, touch him, laugh at all his jokes, get too close so I know they could care less that he’s married and now they’re trying to throw it in my face. I think he should just shut them down as soon as they approach so it never gets to the point where I have to feel disrespected by a girl who is flirting (in my opinion) with my husband, infront of me, while she tells me how “LUCKY” I am. BTW My husband is def not a cheater I’ve been in the guys club for the last 10 years I know EVERYTHING about these guys and they could care less cause it’s cool.
I know it is ridiculous to get jealous over something stupid but I can’t help it. Yes I am very jealous. I don’t like when I know my husband talks to other girls and when I ask him he denies it. Plus he works with girls when they need to talk. Just a month ago I found out that my husband is talking to another girl in the internet and chatting most of the time especially while I’m at work. He’s been really flirty with her and open. He can be himself to her and sweet. When he never do those things to me. It makes me really sad that I’ve been trying my best to make this marriage to work but nothings works. He said the reason why he talked to her is because he thought I was cheating on him and the fact that I get jealous and get mad all the time. Which of course he gave me a reason to doubt him. Then now I found out that the girl that is working outside his boss office is the girl used to hang out with his ex wife which makes me worried because I know they’ve talked n maybe talked about his ex wife n possibility to fall for her. Ugh life is sucks!!! I don’t know what else to do. I lobe my husband and I know I am being selfish to think that I only want him for myself. But I know that I deserves it. He is a good guy but just need to be more open to me
I don’t get jealous because it’s stupid. That is what guys want and to try and make you jealous. Just don’t
I think other women can be real idiots at times. They are basically looking to get off on my husbands smile and charm. Yuc makes me sick. I have to wonder if he enjoys these foolish laughing women. Sometimes it goes a little to far as thy laugh like idiots. Get it!
yes. but before talking about myself…
there are sooo many women on here asking for help. how terrible is it that no one has offered any advice? i’ve googled this topic a lot and tried to work on my self esteem, but to no avail.
how can we root out this jealousy that is making us miserable?
once i get enough money i want to go to counseling because my jealousy is hurting our relationship.
I am 22 years younger than my husband, we have two gorgeous girls and awe had a great sex life etc,
We just moved into a beautiful new house and he started to text another women from work in which he asked out, later that year he told me he was going to a meeting and told yet another women out for dinner an old friend that he failed to tell me about, I spent the evening alone and he came back in late with minutes from his meeting…that he made up…
Our marriage is on the rocks big time now because I dont trust him.
a beautiful family ruined because he chose to take another women out and not once took his wife out…men has everything then mess it up…