Comments on: Do you have a secret crush on someone? http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88 anonymous thoughts, dreams and stories from moms Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:06:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Anonymous http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7904 Anonymous Thu, 02 Sep 2010 11:08:22 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7904 I've been married for 12 years & have 2 kids. I love my husband more than anything. He's a good man & we have so much fun. There's this guy at work that I have amazing chemistry with. We have flirted over & over for awhile. Last week we both admitted there's something between us. I feel like I've been turned inside out & I don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about him & I can't hardly sleep or focus on anything. I feel myself falling but he is married too with a daughter. I feel like he is too nice a guy to act on things. This is the first time I've ever known that I would do something if I had the chance. I cannot believe after all these years I'm totally losing it over this guy. Knowing he feels something too makes it 10 times worse. I'm making myself sick over him & I know it's wrong but I can't stop. I can't even tell anyone about it because it would spread like wildfire & I would literally get in so much trouble. When we are in the same room together with other people, I can't even look at him or I will totally betray myself to everyone. In my mind we have done it all a thousand times in a thousand different ways. He's the only guy I know who can make you feel like you've been physically touched when he looks at you. I have a physical reaction to him & my heart races & I feel like I can't breathe when I think of him. I’ve been married for 12 years & have 2 kids. I love my husband more than anything. He’s a good man & we have so much fun. There’s this guy at work that I have amazing chemistry with. We have flirted over & over for awhile. Last week we both admitted there’s something between us. I feel like I’ve been turned inside out & I don’t know what to do. I can’t stop thinking about him & I can’t hardly sleep or focus on anything. I feel myself falling but he is married too with a daughter. I feel like he is too nice a guy to act on things. This is the first time I’ve ever known that I would do something if I had the chance. I cannot believe after all these years I’m totally losing it over this guy. Knowing he feels something too makes it 10 times worse. I’m making myself sick over him & I know it’s wrong but I can’t stop. I can’t even tell anyone about it because it would spread like wildfire & I would literally get in so much trouble. When we are in the same room together with other people, I can’t even look at him or I will totally betray myself to everyone. In my mind we have done it all a thousand times in a thousand different ways. He’s the only guy I know who can make you feel like you’ve been physically touched when he looks at you. I have a physical reaction to him & my heart races & I feel like I can’t breathe when I think of him.

]]> By: Vickia http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7849 Vickia Tue, 31 Aug 2010 06:59:39 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7849 I don't know how it happened - it just did. He walked into my office one day and the core of my body to my toes and fingertips just melted as I looked up and said hi. He's 18 years older than me and we talk often - some say too often. I am notorius for not taking lunch breaks and he'll come into my office, sit down and we chat (so, I do end up taking a break, just not lunch). I know a few people at work have an idea of my feelings - and perhaps his feelings - as there are "you two" comments yet they are quite subtle. I know it's lame, but more than not we talk about what we've been watching (usually recorded/DVR) and though we have never watched anything "together" we are almost always watching it the same night and time as the other. A couple times he's 'lent' me his Netflix because he thinks I'd like the movie - which I always do. The difficult issue of all this is I may soon become his supervisor, which would absolutely cut this relationship from growing any more. He's been divorced for years and is not seeing anyone currently - I am only recently divorced, less than a year. This crush has been going on for 4 months and while I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship, I wouldn't want to lose something with potential. Keep it a secret or put it all out there... I just don't know. Wish me luck and *hugs* to my fellow crushee's. I don’t know how it happened - it just did. He walked into my office one day and the core of my body to my toes and fingertips just melted as I looked up and said hi. He’s 18 years older than me and we talk often - some say too often. I am notorius for not taking lunch breaks and he’ll come into my office, sit down and we chat (so, I do end up taking a break, just not lunch). I know a few people at work have an idea of my feelings - and perhaps his feelings - as there are “you two” comments yet they are quite subtle. I know it’s lame, but more than not we talk about what we’ve been watching (usually recorded/DVR) and though we have never watched anything “together” we are almost always watching it the same night and time as the other. A couple times he’s ‘lent’ me his Netflix because he thinks I’d like the movie - which I always do.
The difficult issue of all this is I may soon become his supervisor, which would absolutely cut this relationship from growing any more. He’s been divorced for years and is not seeing anyone currently - I am only recently divorced, less than a year. This crush has been going on for 4 months and while I’m not sure I’m ready for a relationship, I wouldn’t want to lose something with potential.
Keep it a secret or put it all out there… I just don’t know. Wish me luck and *hugs* to my fellow crushee’s.

]]> By: Anonymous http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7834 Anonymous Sun, 29 Aug 2010 23:48:47 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7834 When I was 16 I developed a huge crush on this really hot guy that worked at the campground where we had a seasonal site. I was completely obsessed with him even during the winter when I didn't see him. It lasted for about 3 years until I finally got some sense and realized that I didn't have a chance with him. I was an unattractive, skinny, flat chested specimen with braces. He was pretty close to perfect. I really wish my friends or family had just come out and said "look it ain't gonna happen" but they didn't. I cringe when I recall some of the crazy shenanigans that my girls and I pulled in my pursuit of this guy. And he was really such a nice guy he took it all in stride. Anyways, I moved on and grew up and went out with lots of different guys. I am married now with kids and a pretty good life. I hadn't thought about this guy in years until one night I had a dream about him. Ever since, I can't stop thinking about him and trying to find him on the internet to see what he is doing. I wish I could stop but for some reason I can't! Any suggestions about why I am doing this after all these years? I never think about the guys I went out with so why can't I stop thinking about a guy that was just a crush? When I was 16 I developed a huge crush on this really hot guy that worked at the campground where we had a seasonal site. I was completely obsessed with him even during the winter when I didn’t see him. It lasted for about 3 years until I finally got some sense and realized that I didn’t have a chance with him. I was an unattractive, skinny, flat chested specimen with braces. He was pretty close to perfect. I really wish my friends or family had just come out and said “look it ain’t gonna happen” but they didn’t. I cringe when I recall some of the crazy shenanigans that my girls and I pulled in my pursuit of this guy. And he was really such a nice guy he took it all in stride.

Anyways, I moved on and grew up and went out with lots of different guys. I am married now with kids and a pretty good life. I hadn’t thought about this guy in years until one night I had a dream about him. Ever since, I can’t stop thinking about him and trying to find him on the internet to see what he is doing.

I wish I could stop but for some reason I can’t! Any suggestions about why I am doing this after all these years? I never think about the guys I went out with so why can’t I stop thinking about a guy that was just a crush?

]]> By: Anonymous http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7803 Anonymous Sat, 28 Aug 2010 02:18:03 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7803 I have a huge crush on a coworker. We have worked very closely for two years and have become pretty good friends. Other coworkers have suspected that we were dating in the past because we are always together. Alas, I have had a BF for 8-1/2 years, so nothing will happen between us (not that my crush would let it; he is too nice). My BF moved in a year ago and still has not proposed, which I think is causing me to start looking for someone who wants a traditional relationship. My coworker is smart, funny, cute, and responsible. I realized that I liked him when he blurted out that he has had a GF when we were out with coworkers last week. I was so upset and now I know why. I have a huge crush on a coworker. We have worked very closely for two years and have become pretty good friends. Other coworkers have suspected that we were dating in the past because we are always together. Alas, I have had a BF for 8-1/2 years, so nothing will happen between us (not that my crush would let it; he is too nice). My BF moved in a year ago and still has not proposed, which I think is causing me to start looking for someone who wants a traditional relationship. My coworker is smart, funny, cute, and responsible. I realized that I liked him when he blurted out that he has had a GF when we were out with coworkers last week. I was so upset and now I know why.

]]> By: Anonymous http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7799 Anonymous Fri, 27 Aug 2010 20:44:37 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7799 OH I feel so much better that this is so normal..... I have a big crush on a co-worker, he's a really great guy. we are both single and at first when i met him he was not looking for a girlfriend (or so he said). Men like to say that to those who they are not interested in. Well basically I confessed to my crush my feelings while riding home on his motorcycle. (live that bike) Will of course he's feelings were not returned and he's still seeking Mrs. right. we have remained friends and I've made the decision to be the bigger person and just love and support my crush and accept any girl that comes into his life. But it sucks that i ended up being hurt and disappointed that I wasn't the one he wanted to be with. I'll get over it of course and someone find that someone has a crush on me. and when and if I do, I'll give them the chance and who knows maybe it will be exactly what i was not getting from my crush. OH I feel so much better that this is so normal…..

I have a big crush on a co-worker, he’s a really great guy. we are both single and at first when i met him he was not looking for a girlfriend (or so he said). Men like to say that to those who they are not interested in. Well basically I confessed to my crush my feelings while riding home on his motorcycle. (live that bike) Will of course he’s feelings were not returned and he’s still seeking Mrs. right. we have remained friends and I’ve made the decision to be the bigger person and just love and support my crush and accept any girl that comes into his life. But it sucks that i ended up being hurt and disappointed that I wasn’t the one he wanted to be with. I’ll get over it of course and someone find that someone has a crush on me. and when and if I do, I’ll give them the chance and who knows maybe it will be exactly what i was not getting from my crush.

]]> By: Anonymous http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7540 Anonymous Mon, 16 Aug 2010 03:49:20 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7540 Previous poster, I can totally relate. I've been happily married 21 years to The One. I have everything a woman could ever want, a loving husband, 3 great kids and a wonderful life. My crush is exactly like what you describe, a drug. Totally came from out of the blue. Instant attraction the first time I met him, it was like a bolt of lightning. We just "get" each other... On the days we talk I am in the best mood, I just breathe him in. I feel a definite attraction/chemistry on his part too but he knows I'm married and he has a girlfriend and so there's this unspoken thing going on between us. In a way it's kind of sweet when we exchange smiles, it's like our special secret but sometimes the longing is just about unbearable. I think about him nonstop. I'm wondering if this feeling will ever go away. Previous poster, I can totally relate. I’ve been happily married 21 years to The One. I have everything a woman could ever want, a loving husband, 3 great kids and a wonderful life. My crush is exactly like what you describe, a drug. Totally came from out of the blue. Instant attraction the first time I met him, it was like a bolt of lightning. We just “get” each other… On the days we talk I am in the best mood, I just breathe him in. I feel a definite attraction/chemistry on his part too but he knows I’m married and he has a girlfriend and so there’s this unspoken thing going on between us. In a way it’s kind of sweet when we exchange smiles, it’s like our special secret but sometimes the longing is just about unbearable. I think about him nonstop. I’m wondering if this feeling will ever go away.

]]> By: Anonymous http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7484 Anonymous Thu, 12 Aug 2010 17:18:11 +0000 http://anonymousmom.com/?p=88#comment-7484 13 years married with The One. No questions about it. Almost 2 years confused for a crush with another. He is everything my man is not. Worse than everything, I know perfectly that he's wrong for me. We are very similar, his public profession brings him in touch with tons of other people who are mesmerized by his persona. I think we are way beyond that stage, I think I know the person behind the persona and we never talk about his public life if for practical reason. I never met him in person nor intend to do so, because I would destroy my life and the damage would be all mine, I'm sure. We have emailed, chatted, told each other secrets and very personal things, a couple of times even cybered - this for almost 2 years. He made me discover a side of myself that I did not know I had. He knows about my feelings for him and I think he does not really believe me, because I'm steadfastly refusing to meet him and bring things to the next level (the abyss). I am also convinced that he has not given up on me because I am "the one who said NO". Luckily we live in different continents. I really do love my man and I am committed to him. I'll never hurt him, no way. Yet this mesmerizing attraction-crush that I sometimes call love is like a constant thorn in my side, and I don't want to suffer anymore when I have everything a woman should have. I feel guilty but what is inside you cannot be stopped or controlled. I tried everything possible. When I break communication, he's there again. I thought we could be sincere, real friends and nothing else. But there is a strong attraction between us, strong to the point of feeling it without ever having met him, so the friendship pretend isn't possible. I am just playing the friend and hoping that it will go away one day. But it hurts. And it does not go away. When I hear from him I'm happy and stay in a good mood all day. He's like a miracle drug. I also think that life together is what makes a couple a REAL couple, and not a cyberversion of a relationship. I have thought that meeting him could be a way to end it because, you never know, I might actually not like him. But the risk that I might actually like him A LOT makes this another "solution" to discard. Anyone can throw me a piece of wisdom? 13 years married with The One. No questions about it. Almost 2 years confused for a crush with another. He is everything my man is not. Worse than everything, I know perfectly that he’s wrong for me. We are very similar, his public profession brings him in touch with tons of other people who are mesmerized by his persona. I think we are way beyond that stage, I think I know the person behind the persona and we never talk about his public life if for practical reason.
I never met him in person nor intend to do so, because I would destroy my life and the damage would be all mine, I’m sure. We have emailed, chatted, told each other secrets and very personal things, a couple of times even cybered - this for almost 2 years. He made me discover a side of myself that I did not know I had. He knows about my feelings for him and I think he does not really believe me, because I’m steadfastly refusing to meet him and bring things to the next level (the abyss). I am also convinced that he has not given up on me because I am “the one who said NO”.
Luckily we live in different continents.
I really do love my man and I am committed to him. I’ll never hurt him, no way. Yet this mesmerizing attraction-crush that I sometimes call love is like a constant thorn in my side, and I don’t want to suffer anymore when I have everything a woman should have. I feel guilty but what is inside you cannot be stopped or controlled. I tried everything possible. When I break communication, he’s there again.
I thought we could be sincere, real friends and nothing else. But there is a strong attraction between us, strong to the point of feeling it without ever having met him, so the friendship pretend isn’t possible.
I am just playing the friend and hoping that it will go away one day.
But it hurts. And it does not go away. When I hear from him I’m happy and stay in a good mood all day. He’s like a miracle drug.
I also think that life together is what makes a couple a REAL couple, and not a cyberversion of a relationship. I have thought that meeting him could be a way to end it because, you never know, I might actually not like him. But the risk that I might actually like him A LOT makes this another “solution” to discard.
Anyone can throw me a piece of wisdom?

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