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Comment on What about your mother in law? by any

any — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 19:14:53 +0000

my mother in law picks fights with me and when i have finally had enough and say my piece she starts crying saying im sorry and my wife falls for it everytime. she convinced my wife to go a bar with our four month old son and when i got mad she screams at me for not loving her then she starts crying saying she has nobody and once again my wife falls for it again. she sends me texts saying nice apologetic things but always calls to say hateful things then shows my wife the texts she is such a manipulitive BITCH and she wonders why her husband and son want nothing to do with her. Oh and the best one yet she told my wife that my son would be better off being raised by her and my wife and me not having anything to do with him and that she would pay all lawyer bills and pay for a house somwhere on the other side of the country and when i get mad she starts crying saying she only said it because she was feeling alone and then of course my wife feels sorry for her. somebody please help

Comment on Do you lie to your spouse? by Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 16:11:09 +0000

Everybody lies. Those who said you never lie, that was a lie. I tell “little white lies” all the time. I’ve told some big ones in my past. I’ve come clean after awhile because they was bad and I felt guilty. There is one lie that I will take to my grave.

Comment on Were you spanked as a child? How did you feel about it then and how about now? by Mona

Mona — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:19:25 +0000

I got spanked by my mom up to age 15. I grew up in a loving family, but those being the 1960s and 1970s, a spanking was what you got when you “acted up” or the teacher called or sent a note home about your behavior in class. My mom strictly believed in bare bottom spankings for me as well as my brother and sister. We got spanked in private, normally in the bedroom, but I have to confess that I sometimes stood outside the closed door and listened as my brother or sister got it! My mom used her hand and as we got older she also used a belt, which really stung a lot and left marks.
I now think that spanking has its place in bringing up children. It is a quick reminder (unlike endless groundings) and re-enforces mom’s words perfectly. No need to spare a child’s bottom - they are well-padded!

Comment on Were you spanked as a child? How did you feel about it then and how about now? by Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:05:09 +0000

Yes, usually in anger and when not I felt like my father enjoyed it, and it actually makes me resent him even more when I think back to how he remained so matter of fact about it, like it was a celebration. He spanked me bare-bottom only once, but I had just gotten out of the shower (I was about and he laid me across his lap and uncovered me matter of factly and made my count the swats -only ten but they hurt like hell. I was screaming so much I could barely say the number. I remember dreading while I was in the shower, I wanted to run away, kill myself even. But I didn’t. To this day I think he liked doing it.

When I got older, he spanked me in anger frequently, though claims not to remember it. I got more than 100 “swats” once and he made me beg him to stop. I was around nine, and after that, they became a lot more rare. I just became a very odd kid, I never had friends, I developed a fantasy that I’ve heard a lot on here, and anyone who has had any experience like mine is out of their mind to consider putting another child through it. I became a messed up kid in so many ways, always socially awkward, I’m afraid of belts and people unexpectedly moving their hands toward me. I can’t imagine hitting my children in any way. A parent is supposed to love their their children, and love doesn’t hurt.

I know plenty of children who have grown up without ever being hit, and they’re some of the most well behaved kids you’ll find, proving it’s not necessary to spank a child for them to be “well disciplined.”

Comment on Were you spanked as a child? How did you feel about it then and how about now? by Karen

Karen — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 18:14:19 +0000

Im 22 and my dad still spanks me, he puts me over his knees lifts the back of my dress and lowers my panties, I got one more year of college so I have to live at home, last night my 30yr old sister got home 2 hours past her curfew I heard dad spanking her with the strap boy did she cry he grounded her for a month bet it was embarrassing getting spanked at 30

Comment on Were you spanked as a child? How did you feel about it then and how about now? by chance

chance — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:15:14 +0000

My first spanking was at 7-8. It was in the classroom. It was followed by many more the same. Always over her knee, on my pants and with her hand. Always as the whole mixed class class of boys and girls watched from their seats. A small community where everyone knows everyone. It only happened to me. I never saw another child spanked in that classroom. Very traumatic being isolated and humiliated again and again. All alone. I resented it. I resent that other kids were doing the same things as I was and not punished THAT way. They swore and fought and talked in class but they were never spanked. Its almost 40 years since that happened. A lot of you younger readers probably are surprised to hear that classroom spankings were allowed. But Im not telling the worst stuff. Her spankings of me got much worse if you know what I mean.

I was confused because I was taught to behave, submit, be respectful and polite. As a child I would say “yes mam, yes sir” etc. and be made fun of because I acted so different than everyone else. I knew if I was caught I would be spanked hard. The others looked at me like I had 4 heads. They always made fun of me. It made me different, not fit in.

As an adult I am almost a perfectionist. I am so worried about not doing something right that it makes doing any jog wrong a panic attack. I feel If I mess up I will be punished as I was as a child. weird huh? Its programed, hard wired into my brain. I understand how Kristen feels.

Anyway, thats part of my story. I spend time researching the subject as well, Im sure you know writing about it is cathardic.

Comment on Were you spanked as a child? How did you feel about it then and how about now? by Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 05:36:58 +0000

I was spanked quite a bit when I was a child… I don’t see anything wrong with doing it in the “right” circumstances for the “crime” and for the child. My mom was pretty short tempered so it didn’t take much to make her mad. I spank my kids when the “crime” calls for it. But I will follow precautions. I wont spank when I’m angry and they have to tell me what they did wrong and apologize specifically for it.